CUTTING TIES IN 2011

Feels like I've been gone a while...I mean...I have...but most of my time has been figuring out people in my life...those close to me and those that are associates. I think 2011 is the year to cut ties with people and start looking out for what I can do to further myself beyond my expectations. Most people don't understand when you're there for them and if you don't give them the answers they are looking for...they get negative with you...I've been subjected to putting people first all my life, but at times you get tired when others decide not to lend a hand or say I'm sorry in return for putting you less on their totem pole/radar then you deserve to be. I say "you" for those that sympathize with me. I feel like I've supported a lot of people...it's like being a back up singer to R Kelly...waiting to get the chance to take front & center stage...yet no one acknowledges you...because your voice is lost in the background to those you support. I'm always going to be the nice guy, but I think it's time to be a little more selfish. Am I wrong for feeling that way? A motto I have is "Love the world, even when it hates you back", which I clearly do...but...it doesn't mean I should leave myself open to experience backlash or griminess...

She's got her own.......

So I've ran into this chick that swears up and down...she's the best thing since sliced bread. I mean it's coo to feel however way you want about yourself...but at the same time...don't knock anyone else down to make yourself look good. There are flaws that others on the outside looking in see...yet she feels the need to run all over everyone else's life to make herself look good...yet...she's not what she sees in the mirror. For one, wearing tons of make-up to fake-up what you don't have...then lie and say it's natural beauty...and she wears no make up (just because she goes a day without eye shadow)? Two, wearing tight jeans and knock off Jewelry yet claiming it's top dollar...when you can't afford to pay your own bills and you use your man to do everything for you...really holds no candle to what she really thinks it does. Three...she claims she got game...but she's always second place in everyone's book? Passing out your sex to everyone doesn't make you the top choice of prime beef...it makes you look bad, when guys toast to your name...like...cheers..."everybody knows your name"...yet her man...gets upset, when he feels that everyone is trying to hook up with her...yet...she's the one...that approaches them...for the hook up. Honestly...he needs to look at the way she carries herself and think twice if he really wants to marry her. It's bad when our sistah's feel the need to put themselves upon a peddle-stool...when they only feel that they deserve the best, yet not have to do anything to get there. I'm glad I gave up dating years ago...LOL! Sistah....Educate yourself to be better than the next person and find your light in the tunnel towards success...stop acting as if everyone owes you something and take the reigns of your life...be bold...be beautiful...be you...yet drama free!